I have mixed feelings about our IMing, text messaging, facebook culture. Is it just me?
#1 actually used her cell phone the other day to TALK ON IT. She joked that it was making her ear burn and I laughed! But, seriously, as a culture, we are replacing conversation with this new form of communication and that is not a good thing 24/7.
They say that more than 50% of our communication is body language and tone. Well, we lose that form of communicating electronically. And, that leaves us with what? It can make you sort of numb.
A few people have asked me why I deactivated my facebook. Well, I'll answer that question with a question. How would your husband feel if guys you were involved with many years ago started calling you or showing up on your door step? I would assume most husbands would not welcome that. Enter facebook....where anyone can find you and message you. Perhaps, not as extreme as a phone call but it is contact all the same and not the kind of contact any faithful spouse should welcome. Again, it is just another way of communicating that was never even thought of a decade ago. At least not by our age group. It became too awkward for me, so I deactivated. I am 110% more productive now as a result of not spending so much time on what I fondly refer to as crackbook. You would think I would have exercised with all that free time by now, but instead I choose to pay bills on time and peruse websites for the best deals at Disney. And, of course there is my Wii obsession......
Texting is a post in itself with teens nowadays asking each other out via a text message or spewing hateful comments on AIM profiles. It is a lack of accountability because we all know it is a lot easier to write something uninterrupted than to face someone with the possibility of rejection or humiliation. Kids never TALK on their phones anymore and they even text each other in the same room so no one can "hear" their "conversation".
Now, here is where my "wrap up" gets weird. I am not against any of the things I mentioned. In fact, The Husband and #1's relationship has grown closer since they began texting each other throughout the day. She lets me see her instant messages on AIM and welcomes my advice when dealing with a difficult "conversation". I'm sure that would not happen if she was locked down in her room talking on the phone. The Husband still has his facebook and I may reactivate mine one day in the future. It's just at times, it all seems so overwhelming and I think (like many of us probably do) I would rather enjoy the one-on-one company of a few good friends live and in person versus having 200 "Internet" friends that I barely know. The trick is trying to instill that philosophy in the next generation......we need to teach them balance and also exercise it ourselves.