Wednesday, September 12, 2007

I'm Not as Nice as I thought I Was

I am reading John Maxwell's book, 25 Ways to Win With People.

It has been an eye opener. I've tried to be encouraging in the past and pray for God to give me a more compassionate (vs. a critical) heart, but as I have begun reading this book I started to take a good long look at the way I talk with people, including my own family members. Now, this is not to say John advocates shallow, insincere praise where it is not due, but he is very purposeful when looking for the best in people and then acknowledging it. Many times, I've thought wonderful things about people and never followed through with it for a variety of reasons. Too busy, too distracted, here's one....too embarrassed. Yes, it can be embarrassing sometimes to say something affirming to someone who may be slightly intimidating or .....annoying......but, God made EVERYONE in His image so there is something to be recognized as significant in each person He has created. Yes, even that lady who makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up should be encouraged and affirmed just as much as my best buds. In fact, sometimes those are the people who need to hear it the most because no one else ever tells them anything positive.

Especially as a mom, I want to be able to be more specific in my praise and encouragement. Even more specific with it than I am when I give a 10-minute dissertation on how to correctly clean and organize the playroom. I plan to choose my words even more carefully from now on and sometimes even choose not to say anything at all (boy, is that a tough one!).


Promises Fulfilled said...

This is great for all of us. I have been talking about that recently as well. It is so important that we bring out the best in others and our kids, and stop putting things in their "backpack" - were you at church that Sunday when Pastor T.G. spoke and used the Snoodles Tale? It was a great illustration. It is really neat to hear how you are allowing God to continue to work in you - we all need to do that!

The Gang's All Here! said...

Well, I for one think you are way nicer than you think you are :)

Seriously, awesome post - and a timely reminder to all of us to be mindful of how we influence others. We have great power and authority, and I for one have to constantly choose to use my powers for good and not evil!